THC Logo



The difference between counselling, coaching and The Grief Recovery Method ®

Emma Tomes |
January 19, 2022

So, you’ve decided you need some help and support in an area of your life.

Let’s be honest, your first port of call is probably Google to see what help is available.

Suddenly you are plunged into a world of counsellors, coaches, and self-help guides . . .so where do you turn?

Let’s try to break it down into simpler chunks – if you’re looking for help, counselling or coaching are the popular choices.

But what’s the difference between the two?

Firstly, let’s look at the similarities. Coaches and counsellors can be similar because they tend to:   

  • Work to create a space of trust and non-judgement 
  • Help you create a life you feel positive about  
  • Use listening skills and ask questions to help you reflect  
  • Have a desire to help you find your own answers that work for you 
  • Help you identify and work towards your goals 

The real difference is that counselling is coping-orientated, and coaching is action-orientated.​

Often coaches and counsellors will use different models to support and help you. 

These approaches can include Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) techniques. 

If you are seeking help with symptoms of grief or loss, you may also come across references to the Grief Recovery Method ®.

This is an educational programme where you’ll learn about grief and loss, whilst completing weekly self-study to explore your experiences.

It is more like education than therapy, giving you a set of tools that can help you deal with your loss and any future loses too. 

And those losses don’t necessarily have to be the death of a loved one – loss and grief can also be experienced due to redundancy, a relationship break-up, and many other life events.

As an integrative coach, I use all these methods within my coaching – it’s like a toolbox where I can select the most appropriate approach, or a combination depending on your needs. 

I also adopt a consultative approach, so you would always have a say in what would be best for you.

My clients experience great results. Here are a few comments left by people who have taken part in my Grief Recovery Method ® programme: 

“The loss graph really helped me to see the pain I have been carrying around. It also helped me realise that there are more losses I need to address and gave me the tools to do so as I move forward on my journey.”

“Emma is extremely supportive and empathic. I felt safe in exploring my unresolved feelings surrounding the losses I had experienced, she helped me to navigate through the pain and come to terms with my loss. I am now better equipped, with a much greater understanding in dealing with loss.”

“After my husband’s sudden death, I was completely lost. This program was very helpful in giving me the necessary tools to find a way to move forward.”

The results speak for themselves.

If you’re looking for help, get in touch today and together we can find the best approach for you.

Book your 20 minute call$ Get in touch$
Share this post…
Get our insights and news direct to your inbox.

Just pop your email address in here and we’ll take care of the rest.

Further reading…

If you’d like to find out more about how we can help we’d love to hear from you.

It's OK to ask for help.

We’re proud to be certified by

Certified by